Where’s My Charger?

I recently spent some time online researching the topic, “recharging your personal battery”. Let’s just say there are a LOT of opinions on this subject!  Most of the ideas gave me a feeling of, “really?”  Suggestions included a visit to the spa, working in the garden, go rock climbing – the lists were as varied as the authors.  Although all of the ideas are great ones, they aren’t very practical when our lives are on fast forward. As life swirls all around us, it kicks up debris and we spend a lot of time dodging the flying objects while we make our way down the road.  

Every night it’s a good idea to plug in your cell phone so the next morning it has a full charge. That’s also a great way to make sure it has enough power should it need to auto-update.  Running the battery down on the phone can cause stress. Especially if you are like me and constantly ask, “has anyone seen my power cord?” mode.

Much like our cell phones, we need to plug in every day. We need to find a source but it’s not practical to stop every day and head to the spa, or climb a mountain, or read a good book. Those are great if you want to unplug for a day or more and I strongly suggest you schedule times to do that. But practically speaking, we need to find ways to quickly charge our own batteries so we have enough power to stay the course and focus.  Our vision can get blurry when our batteries run too low.  

Recharging at the Java Station!

I would enjoy hearing from each of you as to how you plug in your battery and recharge your day. It may be as simple as that morning cup of coffee on the back porch for 20 minutes.  Whatever YOUR charger looks like – remember where you put it so you can plug in and re-charge everyday!



Make It Work…

Success.  Everyone wants it – few people know when they have it – and even fewer people can define it.  I talk with people all the time who want to succeed. In order to achieve levels of success we first need to be able to put it in to words.  But it gets even more difficult when you realize that merely putting it in to words isn’t going to magically make it happen. I’d like to share a few quick steps you can make to define your own success. My desire is that these steps will help you realize it, name it, motivate it, and bring it to fruition.

First, ask yourself, “what does success LOOK like?”  Picture yourself in the midst of the “successful” you that you want to be.  What does that look like?

Second, is to forget the masses. Never measure your own success story with others.  The success of others is THEIR story, not yours.  The measure of success can only truly be measured against YOUR wants and desires. It’s the little ache deep inside of you that feels like a void and you just have to fill it.  If you KNOW you want it, that is your motivation to keep going when times get tough.

The third step in this process is to get specific. If you have a goal to “lose weight” or “work out more”, that’s fine but if you can’t get specific and dig down a bit deeper in to those goals, you’ll find yourself never succeeding at them.  “To run a 5K by December” is a much more attainable goal than to simply, “get more fit”.  “Getting in to a size 7 dress by Erica’s wedding” seems a lot more focused than, “losing weight by Erica’s wedding”.  

Now, circle back to the first question and see if you can clear that one up a bit.  Be specific, draw the picture in your head and then put it in to words.  Having the idea in your head is great but once you commit it to written words, you’ve actually given your brain time to chew on the idea and forced yourself to find the words that bring the picture to life.

Finally, make it happen. Your success may not have a timeline or that timeline may need to be adjusted.  Fashion consultant Tim Gunn is famous for telling young designers who find themselves in a bit of a mess with a particular design, “make it work”. He’s spot on with that advice. Dive in, stay in, re-focus if you have to, wipe the tears away, and keep going. Nothing was ever achieved by merely thinking about it – you have to put it in to action.  Make it work!

Abundant Thanks

I read this quote the other day and found myself laughing out loud. 

“The “what happened” moments are easier to prove today when everyone has a cell phone…”

In sports and in life there are three types of people.  

  1. Those who make it happen
  2. Those who watch it happen
  3. Those who wonder what happened

The “what happened” moments are easier to prove today when everyone has a cell phone.  I laughed while sitting in a coffee shop, staring at my phone. I laughed out loud and looked up around me and of the approximately 12 people in the coffee shop at that time, I would guess maybe 2 of them stopped looking at their devices long enough to look up to see who was laughing.  There was not one individual who was NOT looking at a cell phone or iPad or laptop. It got me thinking – what do we value most?  Should we not be valuing one another and being thankful of having a few moments to talk with another human being and maybe even meet new people?  Should we be spending less time looking down and more time looking around?

What do you value most in this life? Some say that the thing you spent most of your time on is what you value most but I’m not sure it is that easy. For many people, spending a lot of time on something such as work is HOW they show value to other things such as family and financial security and well-being.  We cannot live in line with our values, though, if we cannot identify them. You can start to identify your values by listing that for which you are thankful.

When we identify those things in our lives for which we are thankful, we begin to paint a clear picture in our minds and hearts of what we value the most.  When you wake each day, take a few moments and consider your thanks-giving.  Begin each morning by identifying a few things for which you are thankful and then add the emotions behind those. How do they make you feel?  

Is your list more intrinsically focused on extrinsically?  Do you find yourself more thankful for your cell phone or for your individualism and its role in the community?

Andrews University in Berrien Springs, MI have a report on line which outlines the 10 Core American Values[1]. It is a unique insight on the things that make America unique but can also help us identify our values.  

Experiencing a life of abundance starts with an attitude of gratitude.  If we approach life with any other attitude, I believe, we fall short of what it truly means to be human.  

Take a few moments to count your blessings and instead of Snapchatting about it – try looking up and around and see what new things you may discover. 


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Distraction VS Re-Direction

As I was walking around my neighborhood the other day, I came upon someone walking their dog. We stopped and chatted a bit and then she starting walking away with the dog but the little dog was easily distracted and was not paying attention.  I overhead the dog’s handler say, “Come on sweetie, I need you to focus; focus puppy, focus!”.  I LOVE that.  A reminder to keep your focus – I wish, at times, that I had a voice reminding me to keep my focus. There are so many things vying for my attention every minute of the day that it is a miracle I get anything done.

Distractions happen and Tony La Russa wrote, “There are always distractions, if you allow them”. Are you allowing distractions to pull your focus?  If you KNOW the distraction is pulling you AWAY from what you need to be doing then pause, breathe, and focus. But if the distraction is an attempt to re-direct you, then still pause, breathe, and focus, and re-evaluate.  

By focusing in on the process, steps, and goals, you should be able to discern a distraction from a re-direction. A re-direct can come as an obvious, “NO!” or sometimes be hiding behind subtlety.  It is our responsibility to ourselves to take time to discern and that means to pause and focus.

There are two mains tasks your brain goes through when it is focused on a task.  First, visually, you take in all data and information and you process it in order to determine what requires your attention.  We picture that process as if it was a blurry photo that is slowly coming in to focus, watching it come to fruition.  

Second, you focus on one area in particular within the larger photo. As it comes in to focus, find one thing to look at and work on it.  Then, move on to the other parts.  

How many times a day are you distracted from that on which you are working?  Did you know that it can take up to 25 minutes for your brain to fully return to a project once the distraction has occurred?  Each time you get distracted, you’re getting more and more tired and draining yourself of energy and drive.  We have so many distractions from technology to weather to other people.  Here are a few tips to keep in mind that will help you maintain your focus and be able to define distractions as ‘distraction’ or a ‘re-direct’. 

  • Understanding WHERE Your Focus Needs to Be. This also means knowing what is WORTHY of your distraction.  
  • Making Sure to Randomly Unplug and Take Breaks.  Step back, push back from the computer, take a walk, breathe, enjoy a cup of coffee or tea.  By purposely taking breaks, you are less likely to welcome and be receptive to distractions. 
  • Doodle.  A recent study from the University of Plymouth In England shows that to help improve cognitive performance and recollection, spend some time doodling!
  • Let others around you know that you need some time to focus and would appreciate their help. You can wear headphones or earplugs for a while, or pull away in to a different area of the house or a work conference space to focus on a particular project. Whatever YOU need to focus, let people know so they can help you achieve your goal.

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What are the distractions that occur in your day that pull you from your focus?

What steps do you take to re-gain focus?

How do you know if it’s a distraction or a re-direction?

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Resolve To Be . . .


This is the time of year when out with the old and end with the new is the mantra by which many live.  It is a time to begin thinking and planning for the new year and to create resolutions. 

Resolutions are typically made but most often not followed through. Of all the resolutions made for the new year, only about 10% of them will come to fruition. Why is that?

Resolutions are decisions to DO or NOT DO something. Lose weight, work out more, be more kind, or save money. To truly follow-through with any of our resolutions we need to be changing our day-to-day behaviors, to change our mindset, alter our ways of thinking and acting.

What is your new year’s resolution? What course of action are you going to take to resolve an issue, problem, or obstacle in your life? How are you going to program your mindset to change habits and create new ones?

This year, instead of writing resolutions you may or may not accomplish, resolve to BE the thing you desire most this year.  

BE lighter, BE healthier, BE kinder, BE a saver or whatever it is you desire. 

It’s inevitable that when trying to make a change, there will be lapses. You shouldn’t feel guilty about giving in to your cravings but accept that it is part of the learning process and move on. Do not wallow there. It does you no good. Bad habits can take years to become ingrained and there are no quick fixes in making major lifestyle changes. These may be clichés but we learn by our mistakes and every day is a new day – and you can start each day afresh.

Resolve to enter the process of becoming. The process requires you to try, fail, and try again.  Becoming is hard work and it’s okay to need more than one try to get it right. Resolve and promise yourself to enter in to the journey and not give up at the slightest sign of weakness or temptation. A resolution is a purposeful action designed to move and motivate you to BE better.

If you begin thinking and behaving like the resolution you desire, then you will BE what you need in 2019. 

What are YOUR new year’s resolutions? Do you have an action plan when you grow tired or weary?  I would love to read your resolutions, and help you get where you are going.  

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‘Tis The Season for Stress-Filled Laughter

‘Tis The Season For Stress-Filled Laughter

Did you know that this year Santa’s sleigh will fly with one less reindeer?  Comet has to stay home to clean the sink.

Did you at least smile with that joke?  I hope so and if you did, congratulations because you just released a LOT of stress with one little smile or laugh.

Stress affects everyone. For many people, this time of year means spending time in complex social interactions such as family and relative gatherings and often uncomfortable work-related parties.    For many around the world it is a time of trying to at leastmatch expectations, the pressure to create a ‘wonderful Christmas’ with presents and one of the most important meals of the year.  To some it feels like the holy-days-of-obligation to be someone we are not and be somewhere we prefer to avoid.  The stress of the holidays also includes those on-going stresses of the rest of the year from relationship issues, health situations, money, diet, employment, and bills and, honestly, if I keep listing them I might start feeling the stress as well!

Dealing with the stress is the key to overcoming the adverse effects of it but HOW we deal with it is critical.  Who has time right now to learn a new skill, right?  Our natural response is to put off learning a new skill, such as a new relaxation method, for another day. We feel we could manage it better if we put it off and wait for the next crisis to happen.  The truth is – time is of the essence – and putting it off only compounds our stress.

The key is to balance your stress and your periods of relaxation and wellness.  You KNOW you are going to have stressful moments but we don’t typically see them coming until we are in the midst of the moment. We must plan our wellness periods so that we have ammunition to combat the stressful moments.  It’s about optimizing experiences to gain the best potential from each one.  We need to listen to our bodies and our minds because they will tell us, often yelling it loudly, that we need to calm down.

Laugh.  It’s a quick moment in time that can have some amazing stress-releasing benefits.  According to the Mayo Clinic, a quick moment of laughter stimulates many of your internal organs by increasing oxygen intake which in turn increased endorphins that are released by the brain.  It also increased your heart rate and blood pressure momentarily which can induce a good, relaxed feeling.  Finally, it soothes tension because it stimulates circulation and aids in muscle relaxation, both of which reduce some of the physical symptoms of stress.


Take a few moments today to laugh – crack a smile – and take a proactive stance in favor of your own well-being.

Did you know that according to the song, “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer”, Santa has twelve reindeer? Sure, in the introduction it goes “There’s Dasher and Dancer and Prancer and Vixen, Comet and Cupid and Donner and Blitzen…” That makes eight reindeer.

Then there’s Rudolph, of course, so that makes nine.

Then there’s Olive. “Olive the other reindeer used to laugh…” That makes ten.

The eleventh is Howe. “Then Howe the reindeer loved him…”

The 12thone is Andy! “Andy shouted out with glee.” The proof is in the song!

May you intentionally seek out moments to laugh and smile, taking part in your own wellness plan.  Stress will happen this time of year – how we react to that stress is critical to our success.  Be kind to yourself and don’t allow the stressful factors to win.

 

 

 

What IS Excellence?

I love this meme! Makes me smile every time!

The definition of excellence is, “the quality of being outstanding or extremely good”.

Excellence is not something that is established and set in stone. It does not magically occur and become something that is a set label.  Excellence is, according to Matt Hann of Hillsong, “…an ever-changing dynamic in both our personal journey and the collective journey of our teams”[1]

When we strive for excellence, we experience true growth. When we strive for mediocrity, we experience stagnation.  When we continually offer up to our Creator the very best we have to give in ALL things that we do, then excellence becomes ACTION and it becomes HABIT.  It changes over time and redefines itself according to our experiences and our mindset.

What is excellence for you? If excellence is not an end, if it is not something to which we can arrive, than how do we achieve it?  Is it a destination or a process?  In Matt Hann’s definition, excellence is absolutely a process and is that not what the entire human experience is supposed to be? 

When we empower ourselves and those around us to make things excellent, we remove our need to examine quality control and we focus more on our actions. 

I want you to strive to be an artist of excellence.  An artist makes a difference. An artist will do something that has never been done before. An artist will dig deep within themselves to find the creative, passionate drive.  An artist will strive to plug us in to the act of making things better.  An artist of excellence is constantly in motion, is constantly changing and adapting, and is constantly striving to exceed the excellence achieved the day before.  Go forth and be excellent!

I would love to hear from you.  What are YOURS plans to achieve awesomeness in 2019.  I’m not talking resolutions – I’m talking about empowering yourself, granting yourself permission to exceed your own expectations!  Head over to the contact page (https://raushawnaprice.com/contact/) and select “I Just Want to Say Hello” and then share with me.  You can also email inquiry@raushawnaprice.com

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[1]https://hillsong.com/collected/blog/2014/11/what-is-excellence/#.W9sE9S2ZPUI

Epiphany Mistakes

Wikipedia defines Epiphany in this manner:

“An epiphany (from the ancient Greek ἐπιφάνεια, epiphaneia, “manifestation, striking appearance”) is an experience of a sudden and striking realization. Generally the term is used to describe scientific breakthrough, religious or philosophical discoveries, but it can apply in any situation in which an enlightening realization allows a problem or situation to be understood from a new and deeper perspective.”

Maya Angelo defines epiphany like this:

“…It’s the occurrence when the mind, the body, the heart, and the soul focus together and see an old thing in a new way.”

I like to refer to an epiphany as an a-ha! Moment. It is the moment in time when something is revealed, allowing us to see it for the first time or to see something again as if for the very first time.  

These moments can be life-changing but what happens when we have spent time on something and achieved the end-goal just to learn that it was a mistake?

Dorie Clark says “Humans are highly susceptible to the sunk cost fallacy, which makes it hard for us to end something into which we’ve already put time, money, or effort” (Harvard Business Review, What To Do When You’ve Made a Bad Decision August 11, 2016).  We are victims to our own ego, not wanting to admit a mistake or a failure and many times covering it up at all costs. But imagine the POWER in admitting you failed! Sending energy of raw honest out to the world is empowering and cleansing, scary too, the first time, but worth it.  

Our moments of sudden clarity, our “a-ha” moments, are meant, I believe, to teach and  empower us to continue the forward momentum regardless of the outcome.

We failed.  

We made a mistake.

We must move on from it and allow ourselves to build upon that mistake. Don’t push it aside and try to cover it or paint it another color. You can dress a rock up in a puppy costume but it is still a rock.  You can call your failure whatever you like but it is still a failure and THAT’S OK!

We must make the decision to either “know and grow” or “whine and repine”. The choice is ours but I’m here to tell you that when we elect to grow from our mistakes the reward is just as sweet as the taste of victory!

Raushawna Price
Giver of Awesomeness (R)

Listening & Hearing: Two Different Acts of Obedience

When we speak with other people do we speak AT them or WITH them?  Is it a monologue or is it a dialogue?  When we participate in dialogue, do we listen to HEAR or listen to RESPOND?

Most people will, if they are honest with themselves, realize that they listen to respond.  Do we automatically begin writing and editing a rebuttal script before the other person completes what they are saying?  There’s a good chance there is a second monologue going on in your head WHILE you read this!

Another way to put this is to understand the difference between ACTIVE and PASSIVE listening. It is about BEHAVIOR.  Listening is not just the act of hearing something but is also the process of making sense out of what we are hearing.  ACTIVE listening is full engagement.  We can determine if people are engaged in active listening by looking for physical cues such as nodding, smiling, eye brow or forehead responses and eye contact.  The listener may ask questions, respond with non-sensible vocalizations to signify their agreement, disagreement, or understanding.  This is analytical listening – it is piecing together the information that is coming at them, ordering it in their minds, placing the words and phrases in categories, and matching them with historical references throughout our own lives.  If we are inclined to counsel individuals, we are engaging in active listening. Carl Rogers defines empathetic listening as “entering the private perceptual world of the other.”

What, then, is PASSIVE listening?  Typically, the listener is not reacting and is not listening with the goal of responding. We may be taking in and absorbing the information. The passive listener is not necessarily NOT paying attention. We are simply absorbing.

When I speak in front of small or large groups, they are typically the passive listener.  There is little two-way communication, not a lot of eye contact from the listeners, and the listener feels safe from feeling that they have to participate.  This can be very helpful to the speaker because it gives that person flexibility to drive the conversation, direct the imagery, and create emotional responses.

This all sounds pretty analytical but there is something I’m trying to point out.  In our everyday interaction with people it is helpful to know if we are being active or passive listeners. When the clerk asks, “how are you today?” are they listening for our response as an active participant in the dialogue or as a passive engager?  More than likely, a passive engagement as they are merely on cruise control and likely following the corporate script of customer engagement.  When someone approaches us with an emotional declaration such as, “I love you” or “I need to talk about something” the immediate reaction they get from us will typically set the entire tone and direction of the conversation. It will either slam the door on our availability or open it up and welcome them in to the inner circle of our undivided attention.

Counselors, especially lay-counselors (camp, church or small community helpers), are trained to face the person, not respond to other people or situations in the room, make eye contact as well as other verbal and non-verbal responses in order to establish the ground rules with a response. That response is this:  I’m going to listen OR I’m not really going to listen.

The active listening test:

We can check whether people are engaged in active listening by asking questions about the content and about their emotional reaction to what was said.  We can paraphrase what we heard, or ‘parrot’ back to the speaker what we believe we just heard. We can check on the perception of both listener as well as speaker by asking for confirmations, affirmations, or clarifications.


Specifically, for me, I am a very active listener when I am in Church.  I grew up in an AME church and when my Pastor asked for an amen, you responded.  Today, I give an “amen” without being prompted, to show my active listening and to solidify the statements within my understanding.  I am sure, if you stopped and thought about it, you could think of times when you were a very active listener.  Maybe with your children as they are sharing their day, or with a coworker who is discussing a concern.

 

 

We can all continue to improve our listening skills and today I want to encourage us to do that by simply being more aware of our bodies and our minds while someone is talking with us.  is the inner monologues in our heads louder than the speakers’ voice?  Are we solely listening to respond or are we listening to understand? There is a time and place for both these acts of obedience and it is our job to determine what is appropriate for each setting in which we find ourselves.

 

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Reduce Work Load and Increase Results

I have dedicated my life for many years to helping people achieve more than they ever thought was possible.  In the past ten years, we have seen people work harder and longer. Retiring at 65 years of age just is not “a thing” anymore.  Take a look at your local chain stores and you’ll find more and more seniors still being part of the work force.  Unfortunately, the pay hasn’t kept pace with our efforts, and we often excel at the expense of our health, relationships, and even free time. Our stress has increased, and our health has decreased.

 

 

There are a few tips I want to share with you on how to reduce your workload while increasing your results at the same time. Yes – it is possible.

 

  1. REDUCE YOUR TASK LIST: First, if you have an assistant make sure you don’t mind delegating. Just taking even one task off your plate will give you an amazing sense of relief.
    You shouldn’t work in the order the tasks arrive in your inbox or by who screams the loudest.  Remain flexible at all times, realizing that priorities can shift on the fly and something can suddenly take higher priority than the ones that were high on your list earlier that same day. Be flexible and stop thinking that it is a “must do it now” list.  If possible, focus on the things that are going to have a long-term consequence for you and then delegate the lower priority items to your assistant.

 

  1. CUT BACK ON YOUR OBLIGATIONS: You have to have the time to do those items on your to-do list or it becomes your “won’t get done list” and that does wonders for beating down your self-confidence and feelings of self-worth!

 

  1. SAY NO ONCE IN AWHILE: It is perfectly acceptable to say no. What MATTERS, is HOW you say it.  If you can follow up a, “no” with an action step/idea that will still get the results requested, even better!  You have to have discernment and vision to make the right choices and determine when is the right time to say either, “yes”, or “not right now” or “no”.

 

  1. REDUCE DISTRACTIONS: Even as I’m writing this I had to intentionally, just now, shut down a few browser windows and turn off my email because it was too distracting. It took me about 20 minutes just to get to this spot in this article. That’s unacceptable.  Be AWARE of your distractions and get rid of them.

 

  1. REDUCE ENERGY WASTE: If something is taking a lot of your energy, perhaps you’re going about it the wrong way.  Don’t spend an hour doing something that should only take 15 minutes.  Become aware of the things and situation that pull juice from your personal battery.  Someone I know would say to me all the time when she was hungry, “my battery needs recharging. I have to stop.” You MUST realize you can only go so far until you have to recharge. Don’t push your car to see how far you can go with the ‘low fuel’ light on. Life doesn’t work out well when we continually operate in that manner.

 

  1. SLEEP, EAT, AND BE MERRY: Get plenty of sleep and rest, eat good food that is healthy for you and tasty. Tasty food brings a smile to our faces and our souls.  And be happy. Make sure you are making the conscious choice each day to face the day with a smile.

 

Our mental, spiritual, and physical health do NOT have to take a back seat to our success. We can succeed AND have strong minds, hearts, bodies, and spiritual lives.  Go forth and be filled with joy and purpose.

 

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