Time to Stop and Reflect

As November is now upon us, we realize that the end of the year is going to come up faster and faster. The holidays tend to speed up the clock a bit and of course, day light savings time is an attempt to give us one extra hour but it rarely feels like it, right?

As the year 2020 looms on the horizon some of us may feel the need to scramble to accomplish the goals we had set in front of us at the start of 2019.  Panic and anxiety can creep in as we feel that perhaps we have failed ourselves by not reaching all of our goals.  These feelings can, at times, be heavy and prevent us from continuing our journey to achieve.  It just seems easier to give up and think, “well, better luck next year”. 

The reality is this: goals should be our motivator to continually strive to be our best.  We shouldn’t be so much focused on the end result as we are on the PROCESS.  For in the process of working to achieve our goals, we tent to discover more about ourselves and our ideals and dreams can change as we work through the journey.  Some people ask me, “what happens when I come to a fork in the road – how do I know which path to take that will get me to my goal? I don’t want to go down the wrong one!”  The reality is – the path you elect will be the pathway to your goal because it’s about the process and the journey.  Think of it this way:  in the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy took a path, the yellow brick road, on the way to achieve her ultimate goal – to meet the Wizard. But what happened along the journey was far more important and life-changing than the ultimate goal. And the goal changed, right?  She wanted to get home but it was more important to maintain the relationships AND the education she garnered along the journey. 

As the last two months of the year are now upon us, my hope for each of you is that you will take a few moments to remember where you were a year ago, and focus on all that you have achieved, all that you have learned, and on all the many ways you have grown in business and personal life.

As a success coach, I have the honor of helping people work through their goals and it’s important that we focus on the steps, not taking them out of sequence, but focusing on making each step intentional on the way to the end result.  But what happens in most cases is that the end result slowly changes and we discover that the true goal was in the process – not the result.  And in turn, the RESULTS are AWESOME. 

Achieve your Awesomeness in the remainder of 2019 and prepare for even more in 2020.  I would love to speak with YOU about your personal and professional goals, those things that are holding you back, and help you to step on to the path that will take you through your amazing journey of growth, realization, and the discovery and release of your AWESOMENESS! 

Make It Work…

Success.  Everyone wants it – few people know when they have it – and even fewer people can define it.  I talk with people all the time who want to succeed. In order to achieve levels of success we first need to be able to put it in to words.  But it gets even more difficult when you realize that merely putting it in to words isn’t going to magically make it happen. I’d like to share a few quick steps you can make to define your own success. My desire is that these steps will help you realize it, name it, motivate it, and bring it to fruition.

First, ask yourself, “what does success LOOK like?”  Picture yourself in the midst of the “successful” you that you want to be.  What does that look like?

Second, is to forget the masses. Never measure your own success story with others.  The success of others is THEIR story, not yours.  The measure of success can only truly be measured against YOUR wants and desires. It’s the little ache deep inside of you that feels like a void and you just have to fill it.  If you KNOW you want it, that is your motivation to keep going when times get tough.

The third step in this process is to get specific. If you have a goal to “lose weight” or “work out more”, that’s fine but if you can’t get specific and dig down a bit deeper in to those goals, you’ll find yourself never succeeding at them.  “To run a 5K by December” is a much more attainable goal than to simply, “get more fit”.  “Getting in to a size 7 dress by Erica’s wedding” seems a lot more focused than, “losing weight by Erica’s wedding”.  

Now, circle back to the first question and see if you can clear that one up a bit.  Be specific, draw the picture in your head and then put it in to words.  Having the idea in your head is great but once you commit it to written words, you’ve actually given your brain time to chew on the idea and forced yourself to find the words that bring the picture to life.

Finally, make it happen. Your success may not have a timeline or that timeline may need to be adjusted.  Fashion consultant Tim Gunn is famous for telling young designers who find themselves in a bit of a mess with a particular design, “make it work”. He’s spot on with that advice. Dive in, stay in, re-focus if you have to, wipe the tears away, and keep going. Nothing was ever achieved by merely thinking about it – you have to put it in to action.  Make it work!

Resolve To Be . . .


This is the time of year when out with the old and end with the new is the mantra by which many live.  It is a time to begin thinking and planning for the new year and to create resolutions. 

Resolutions are typically made but most often not followed through. Of all the resolutions made for the new year, only about 10% of them will come to fruition. Why is that?

Resolutions are decisions to DO or NOT DO something. Lose weight, work out more, be more kind, or save money. To truly follow-through with any of our resolutions we need to be changing our day-to-day behaviors, to change our mindset, alter our ways of thinking and acting.

What is your new year’s resolution? What course of action are you going to take to resolve an issue, problem, or obstacle in your life? How are you going to program your mindset to change habits and create new ones?

This year, instead of writing resolutions you may or may not accomplish, resolve to BE the thing you desire most this year.  

BE lighter, BE healthier, BE kinder, BE a saver or whatever it is you desire. 

It’s inevitable that when trying to make a change, there will be lapses. You shouldn’t feel guilty about giving in to your cravings but accept that it is part of the learning process and move on. Do not wallow there. It does you no good. Bad habits can take years to become ingrained and there are no quick fixes in making major lifestyle changes. These may be clichés but we learn by our mistakes and every day is a new day – and you can start each day afresh.

Resolve to enter the process of becoming. The process requires you to try, fail, and try again.  Becoming is hard work and it’s okay to need more than one try to get it right. Resolve and promise yourself to enter in to the journey and not give up at the slightest sign of weakness or temptation. A resolution is a purposeful action designed to move and motivate you to BE better.

If you begin thinking and behaving like the resolution you desire, then you will BE what you need in 2019. 

What are YOUR new year’s resolutions? Do you have an action plan when you grow tired or weary?  I would love to read your resolutions, and help you get where you are going.  

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