Make It Work…

Success.  Everyone wants it – few people know when they have it – and even fewer people can define it.  I talk with people all the time who want to succeed. In order to achieve levels of success we first need to be able to put it in to words.  But it gets even more difficult when you realize that merely putting it in to words isn’t going to magically make it happen. I’d like to share a few quick steps you can make to define your own success. My desire is that these steps will help you realize it, name it, motivate it, and bring it to fruition.

First, ask yourself, “what does success LOOK like?”  Picture yourself in the midst of the “successful” you that you want to be.  What does that look like?

Second, is to forget the masses. Never measure your own success story with others.  The success of others is THEIR story, not yours.  The measure of success can only truly be measured against YOUR wants and desires. It’s the little ache deep inside of you that feels like a void and you just have to fill it.  If you KNOW you want it, that is your motivation to keep going when times get tough.

The third step in this process is to get specific. If you have a goal to “lose weight” or “work out more”, that’s fine but if you can’t get specific and dig down a bit deeper in to those goals, you’ll find yourself never succeeding at them.  “To run a 5K by December” is a much more attainable goal than to simply, “get more fit”.  “Getting in to a size 7 dress by Erica’s wedding” seems a lot more focused than, “losing weight by Erica’s wedding”.  

Now, circle back to the first question and see if you can clear that one up a bit.  Be specific, draw the picture in your head and then put it in to words.  Having the idea in your head is great but once you commit it to written words, you’ve actually given your brain time to chew on the idea and forced yourself to find the words that bring the picture to life.

Finally, make it happen. Your success may not have a timeline or that timeline may need to be adjusted.  Fashion consultant Tim Gunn is famous for telling young designers who find themselves in a bit of a mess with a particular design, “make it work”. He’s spot on with that advice. Dive in, stay in, re-focus if you have to, wipe the tears away, and keep going. Nothing was ever achieved by merely thinking about it – you have to put it in to action.  Make it work!

Resolve To Be . . .


This is the time of year when out with the old and end with the new is the mantra by which many live.  It is a time to begin thinking and planning for the new year and to create resolutions. 

Resolutions are typically made but most often not followed through. Of all the resolutions made for the new year, only about 10% of them will come to fruition. Why is that?

Resolutions are decisions to DO or NOT DO something. Lose weight, work out more, be more kind, or save money. To truly follow-through with any of our resolutions we need to be changing our day-to-day behaviors, to change our mindset, alter our ways of thinking and acting.

What is your new year’s resolution? What course of action are you going to take to resolve an issue, problem, or obstacle in your life? How are you going to program your mindset to change habits and create new ones?

This year, instead of writing resolutions you may or may not accomplish, resolve to BE the thing you desire most this year.  

BE lighter, BE healthier, BE kinder, BE a saver or whatever it is you desire. 

It’s inevitable that when trying to make a change, there will be lapses. You shouldn’t feel guilty about giving in to your cravings but accept that it is part of the learning process and move on. Do not wallow there. It does you no good. Bad habits can take years to become ingrained and there are no quick fixes in making major lifestyle changes. These may be clichés but we learn by our mistakes and every day is a new day – and you can start each day afresh.

Resolve to enter the process of becoming. The process requires you to try, fail, and try again.  Becoming is hard work and it’s okay to need more than one try to get it right. Resolve and promise yourself to enter in to the journey and not give up at the slightest sign of weakness or temptation. A resolution is a purposeful action designed to move and motivate you to BE better.

If you begin thinking and behaving like the resolution you desire, then you will BE what you need in 2019. 

What are YOUR new year’s resolutions? Do you have an action plan when you grow tired or weary?  I would love to read your resolutions, and help you get where you are going.  

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